6 wedding traditions that are outdated


Just about any part of your marriage ceremony and reception has profound roots based in history. Be it the tossing of the bouquet, your wedding bands, or who will pay for the marriage even, these traditions have been established for hundreds of years. But it doesn't suggest you can't follow your own path.

In fact, increasingly more lovers are nixing some wedding practices because, let's not pretend, it's 2016 people and some things may need to stay in the past.

American etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, who owns The Protocol College of Texas, gave her perception on which customs it's OK to leave behind and how to proceed instead.


1. Requesting the bride's dad for her hand

"There are a few circumstances in which a father's approval may well not be accessible, or as important to the couple or the partnership. Lovers nowadays are also marrying older than previous generations and it could feel contrived to ask the father when many are spending money on the marriage themselves, have had children, or it isn't a first relationship.

The traditions is showing admiration for the family so requesting the mother, an uncle, a sibling or the complete family will be a realistic gesture."


2. The tossing of the garter and bouquet

"Catching the garter is known as good luck, and catching the bouquet is superstitious for another someone to get married. Lovers often don't desire to be as formal, or want to break from traditions and do something differently than that which was done before. Some [brides] don't wear a garter or they could carry a tiny spray of flowers rather than a huge bouquet."


3. The bride must wear a veil

"Symbolically the veil was an indicator of reverence and chastity. It isn't poor etiquette to omit it, but is a formal gesture if the marriage is super conventional."


4. Parents should pay for the wedding

"The tradition began because women didn't normally work and were heading from their parent's home to their husband's home. Historically, the bride's family was in charge of almost all of the expenses - the officiant, the music, the bride's dress, service and reception - and the groom's family payed for the travel, rehearsal evening meal, and marriage permit.

The custom is over and both parents do more than their part, often splitting the expenses or paying more than is expected. Some opt out or pay less - it is often a matter of what the couple or the parents can afford."


5. There must be a bridal desk

"Usually there's a table in advance where the bride-to-be, groom, and bridal party sit at.

Nowadays, some lovers choose to stay at a big table with their friends, or walk around and go from chair to chair at each table to invest time with the guests."


6. You can't see the groom prior to the wedding

"It's predicated on a superstition that it might be bad luck for the bridegroom to see the bride-to-be in her outfit. It isn't bad etiquette for a bridegroom to see his bride-to-be. In fact, some couples spend the day together and meet up again in front of the altar."


Though some families may be super traditional,  we do live in the modern world and more couples are opting to leave some traditions in the past, but be careful of ruffling the feathers of the older family members.

It's your big day so you decide xx

Panache Bridal 2016-08-18T15:22:00 6 wedding traditions that are outdated
Posted on October 12, 2016 and filed under tips, Inspiration.