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6 wedding traditions that are outdated

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Just about any part of your marriage ceremony and reception has profound roots based in history. Be it the tossing of the bouquet, your wedding bands, or who will pay for the marriage even, these traditions have been established for hundreds of years. But it doesn't suggest you can't follow your own path.

In fact, increasingly more lovers are nixing some wedding practices because, let's not pretend, it's 2016 people and some things may need to stay in the past.

American etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, who owns The Protocol College of Texas, gave her perception on which customs it's OK to leave behind and how to proceed instead.

 

1. Requesting the bride's dad for her hand

"There are a few circumstances in which a father's approval may well not be accessible, or as important to the couple or the partnership. Lovers nowadays are also marrying older than previous generations and it could feel contrived to ask the father when many are spending money on the marriage themselves, have had children, or it isn't a first relationship.

The traditions is showing admiration for the family so requesting the mother, an uncle, a sibling or the complete family will be a realistic gesture."

 

2. The tossing of the garter and bouquet

"Catching the garter is known as good luck, and catching the bouquet is superstitious for another someone to get married. Lovers often don't desire to be as formal, or want to break from traditions and do something differently than that which was done before. Some [brides] don't wear a garter or they could carry a tiny spray of flowers rather than a huge bouquet."

 

3. The bride must wear a veil

"Symbolically the veil was an indicator of reverence and chastity. It isn't poor etiquette to omit it, but is a formal gesture if the marriage is super conventional."

 

4. Parents should pay for the wedding

"The tradition began because women didn't normally work and were heading from their parent's home to their husband's home. Historically, the bride's family was in charge of almost all of the expenses - the officiant, the music, the bride's dress, service and reception - and the groom's family payed for the travel, rehearsal evening meal, and marriage permit.

The custom is over and both parents do more than their part, often splitting the expenses or paying more than is expected. Some opt out or pay less - it is often a matter of what the couple or the parents can afford."

 

5. There must be a bridal desk

"Usually there's a table in advance where the bride-to-be, groom, and bridal party sit at.

Nowadays, some lovers choose to stay at a big table with their friends, or walk around and go from chair to chair at each table to invest time with the guests."

 

6. You can't see the groom prior to the wedding

"It's predicated on a superstition that it might be bad luck for the bridegroom to see the bride-to-be in her outfit. It isn't bad etiquette for a bridegroom to see his bride-to-be. In fact, some couples spend the day together and meet up again in front of the altar."

 

Though some families may be super traditional,  we do live in the modern world and more couples are opting to leave some traditions in the past, but be careful of ruffling the feathers of the older family members.

It's your big day so you decide xx

Panache Bridal 2016-08-18T15:22:00 6 wedding traditions that are outdated
Posted on October 12, 2016 and filed under tips, Inspiration.

Brides beware of fake dresses

How to avoid a wedding dress nightmare!

Traditionally shopping for your wedding dress has to be one of the most sacred and treasured experience of any bride's wedding planning process.

The romantic journey of browsing dozens of dresses with friends and relatives enjoying the vision of finding your dream wedding gown usually wouldn't involve clicking an "Add to Basket" button and entering your Mastercard or Visa credit card details online.

However a surprising number of modern brides today turn to the internet to buy their perfect designer dress.

Putting tradition and romance aside, buying a wedding gown online appeals to a lot of future brides because of potential cost and convenience benefits.

In the stark light of day however, among the huge number of genuine designer wedding dress websites there are even more counterfeiters making a healthy living out of selling fake dresses to unsuspecting brides-to-be.
 

Be Careful

More and more in recent years the internet has been flooded with fake goods, illegal imports and downright terrible copies.

We advise and indeed include ourselves in this warning, be vigilant, research and really understand what you are buying online.  Brand protection websites likes Which? and MarkMonitor all have great tips to make sure brides are extra careful when shopping online.

We hear countless horror stories from brides who have been lured in by promises of reduced costs and quick delivery but end up, instead, out of pocket and with an unwearable dress for their impending wedding.


Price

Prices that seem too good to be true, generally are.  Counterfeiters would offer dresses with ridiculous discounts such as 70-85% off retail prices but WARNING they are now wising up and realising that sometimes it can be more convincing the less the dress is reduced in price so are now offering smaller discounts such as 20%.

It is definitely worth checking other elements of their website to see if they stack up as a legitimate supplier.


The Website

The fake designers are becoming more cunning with website designs that look more professional at first glance but aren't always so careful with the "About" or "FAQ" page.  Examine these sections of the website carefully, including delivery details and where the company is based, to ensure it matches up with the designer dress company's credentials.

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Location

It is simple to telephone a wedding dress shop/supplier and have a chat about their location and whether an appointment or visit can be booked.  Legitimate suppliers will be more than happy to help, the counterfeiters will be more cagey and have unrealistic excuses.

Also check location based services such as Google Maps as a legitimate business must provide legal proof of address to be registered as a business on Google.


Return and Privacy policies

These should be crystal clear and reasonable.  If the dress is ill fitting or is damaged, it may need to be sent back - an online genuine retailer should provide you with details of how to cancel, return goods and receive refunds.  Counterfeiters rarely invest the money or time to create clear, strong policies, so if there isn't one on the website, that should raise a red flag warning.


Check the web address

"Copy-cat" or impersonation of well known brand's website and what is referred to as "cybersquatting" are on the rise.

When you initially search for a brand name, please PLEASE check the search results and links for spelling mistakes on both the website and the web URL address name as they can sometimes be very subtle changes:

Essense Designs = http://www.essensedesigns.com    (LEGITIMATE REAL ADDRESS)

Essense Designs = http://www.essencedesigns.com    (FAKE COUNTERFEIT ADDRESS)

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Social Media

Many legitimate retailers will have a Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or Instagram social media presence whereas the fake designers and counterfeiters rarely take the time to invest in proper social media pages.  It is always wise to compare the information given on social media pages with the sellers website to ensure the details match, if they don't this should be a warning sign.


Fake Britain TV Episode - Wedding Dress Woes

BBC One's television program Fake Britain dedicated an entire episode focused on the illegal and counterfeit sale of wedding dresses on the internet and the pitfalls of the fake wedding dress industry, click the picture below to watch the entire episode and avoid any heartbreak before your special day.

 

Click the picture above to watch the video

“Brides think they are buying what they see in the pictures, but they are not…The fake dresses are made for pennies from lining material or something equally as cheap, seams and stitches are often unfinished and they mostly arrive with no underlay; meaning it falls like a sack.”
— BBC Fake Britain

Research, Research, Research!

Our ultimate advice for brides-to-be is:

- Do your research and then do MORE research, be 100% sure that the online retailer is as legitimate as it appears

- Be vigilant because the counterfeiters are becoming more cunning

- If you have any doubts never EVER hand over your credit card details

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Please be confident you've taken into account all of the above advice and are happy to avoid potential heartbreak or financial disasters.

For more information, or if you are worried about your wedding dress take a look at the Brides Aware and Bridal Beware websites, the Knock Off Nightmares Facebook Community Page or contacting BIS (Bridal Industry Supplier’s Association) may help.

Did you buy your wedding dress online? We’d love to hear your experiences! Why not leave a comment and let us know?

Panache Bridal 2016-02-15T22:23:00 Brides beware of fake dresses

Find the perfect wedding dress

Wedding dress shopping is no easy task. We all know what it is like to have the pressure of finding the dress of your dreams.

Don’t worry. We have heard from the experts and met so many brides who know exactly what you are going through.

Read on and see Panache’s top tips which will hopefully cause you less stress and open up more time for the rest of your planning to-do list (like the all important taster menus!)

 

1. BE OPEN MINDED

Always go dress shopping with an open mind - just because you’ve been pinning your ideal looks on Pinterest to your hearts content, doesn’t  actually mean that this look will suit you or your day.

So be open minded when you look.

2. HAVE TRUST

Trust your sales consultant - they have had many years training in fabrics and styles so listen to what they have to say and be honest with them and yourself - you may well be surprised.

3. KNOW YOUR BUDGET

Always always fix your dress budget before going dress shopping and be open and honest with your chosen boutique - it may well be fun to try on gowns way over your budget, but it's only your heart you’ll be breaking when you do start trying dresses and they don’t live up to the ones out of reach.

4. DON’T SHOP TOO EARLY

Timing is very important with dress shopping - it can take around 9 months from point of order to your wear date to have everything in time with no rushes - also don’t shop too early - you’ll only end up wasting your own time plus that of the shops.

Styles change, and also become discontinued so always go when you feel ready to actually order your gown should you find it.

5. LESS IS MORE

Don’t take too many people to your appointment - but do take the ones whose opinion you just have to have with you to decide. Your gown is going to be a surprise for your guests just as much as your hubby to be!

You can't please everyone and so taking too many people will only lead to confusion


These five simple things could make all the difference between your dream dress fitting/shopping, being pampered and enjoying the experience... to a lot of heartache and indecision as you try to please everyone but yourself.

Talk openly to our friendly advisors on what works best for you.  Call us on 07548 507 465 or contact us via email today.

Panache Bridal 2015-12-21T08:00:00 Find the perfect wedding dress
Posted on December 21, 2015 and filed under tips.